Why You Don't Have Dates?

• Unclear intentions and goals
• Limited social circles and opportunities
• Self-perception and confidence issues
• Unrealistic expectations
• Fear of rejection and vulnerability
• Over-reliance on technology
• Timing and readiness

It doesn't matter. 

But the truth is, you don't even try.

Because you've had bad experiences. But how can you become successful at dating if you don't talk to any women? It's not possible. However, it's also difficult to keep talking to women if something is holding you back. See the list above.

So, let's focus on these two things:

1. You have to talk to women because it's a numbers game.

I don't like calling it that because dating can be fun and is often an important part of our lives. The key is to talk to women as often as possible. 

My best tip for this is not to overthink it. If you see a woman, just start a conversation. If you don’t have access to women, just go to the grocery store. It doesn't matter what you say at this point; you can even talk about the weather. Our goals here are:

• To become comfortable talking to women/strangers
• To not worry about rejection or any negative comments

2. How to Not Worry About Rejection?

You need to find a way to handle rejection. Is it painful? Do you feel the urge to retaliate? (I don’t recommend retaliation, as it closes off future opportunities and is not the right mindset. But if you feel it helps you as a beginner, you can try it.) Maybe you can simply smile; it boosts your confidence, and they don’t need to understand your feelings. You can also say something like, “Oh, I didn’t expect that. I don’t know what to say, so it’s probably better to leave you for someone luckier than me.”

The goal here is to change your perspective on rejection. If she’s not interested, it’s actually better for you. You don’t want to waste time on someone who doesn’t care about you. If you start to believe that it’s better to end the interaction quickly when she’s not interested, you can say something like, “Okay, actually, it’s better for me.” There’s no need to explain why. If she’s not interested and is just leading you on, she might hurt you more later. Trust me, it’s better for both of you to move on.

What if I Keep Getting Rejected?

It’s overwhelming, but finding a different perspective can be helpful. I recommend:

Seek Rejection

I’m not crazy—this approach works in real life. Go up to strangers and ask for something they’re unlikely to give you, like personal information or money. They’ll likely refuse, but it trains your mind to handle rejection in various situations. The bonus is that, if you keep asking, you might be surprised by what people eventually give you. Confidence plays a big role here; when you ask without caring about the outcome, people may respond differently. Different people have different thoughts and cultural backgrounds, and this can be eye-opening.

If you master this, you’ll understand that you can try different approaches even if you expect rejection, and you’ll continue trying without fear. This mindset will help when talking to a woman because:

• It’s better for you to move on quickly if she’s not interested.
• If you get along with her, that’s also good, but be discerning.